I do remember an incident that happened with my first son
when he was small but old enough to recognize differences.
We lived in West Virginia, a place with many Black
people. We were walking down the street
with Patrick in his stroller. Suddenly
Patrick said, “Daddy look at that man.” This
man was an older Black man: the man was offended. Daddy said, “what about the man?” Patrick said, “Look he has a beard.”
The man began to laugh, he thought Patrick was pointing out
that he was Black but when he realized that Patrick was talking about his
beard. The beard was long and very
white.
Patrick had been exposed to many Black people, one of my
best friends was Black and her mother ran a foster home for teenagers, over 101
children pasted through her home, with a mix of White and Black. She called her house “The Oreo House.”
I think the message to the child is that people can relate
to each other and laugh at the assumptions of biases.
As an anti-bias teacher, a discussion about older men having
beards would be appropriate. I think a
picture of men with beards is the answer to questions about beards. I would use pictures of many ethnicities. Pictures are worth a thousand words. I use these pictures to make the point of the importance of allowing the child to see what he wants to see.
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Barbara,
ReplyDeleteThis was a great comment! For a moment as I was reading I assumed that Patrick was also, going to say something about the man's color. I was totally surprised when something different was said. I love the way your husband asked Patrick to point out what he was asking about I thought that was very smart. Thanks again for sharing.